When students ask me for advice, I am always happy to assist them. I like it when students ask me questions. I love to answer them. Yet I have to constantly remind myself not to provide answers and tell people what to do, but rather to guide them to learn more on their own.
Often when we seek advice, we ask people “What should I do?” with the hope that they will give us an answer. However, when we are told what to do, we rarely do it. The majority of people base their opinions on what THEY WOULD DO if they were in the same situation, but the solution is not ours.
As when students ask me questions, a lot of times, my opinion on handling difficulty may be quite different based on their body, practice, and preference.
As paradoxical as it sounds, we rarely likes to be told what to do. What we need is guidance on how to approach a decision by ourselves.
We constantly look for ways to outsource decision-making. While advice seeking and guidance is useful, ultimately, we have to own our own decision making.
Instead of asking people and live your life depends on other’s opinions, ask YOURSELF for your own advice.
Starting with small things like
“What should I eat?” “What is the right thing to do?”
👉🏻 Trust your intuition and learn to give yourself good advice and making decisions on your own.
👉🏻 No one, even the ones that we seek advice from, have to live with the consequences that we make in our own decisions. At the end, the decision is your own.
Thus, when students come to me for advice, I try not to give any answers. But to ask them questions to reflect on. And then they can come back to me and we can talk further.
𝙎𝙤 𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙚 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙢𝙮 𝙦𝙪𝙚𝙨𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙨 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙨 𝙬𝙚𝙚𝙠.
⭐️ What is one advice you would give to yourself to make this week more full? ⭐️ What is one decision you can make to commit to this week that would “move the needle” in your life?
“𝗕𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗼𝘄𝗻 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗮𝘀𝘀.” 🧭
Yoga pose 🧘♀️: Surya Yantrasana (Compass) Photo credit 📷 : @oh_nuahs
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